Avoid the Child Support Trap and Protect Your Net Worth

Young men, I want to share something I’ve learned over the years, both from my own experiences and from guiding countless others toward becoming high-value men. This topic is serious and might feel a bit uncomfortable to address, but as a father figure who wants the best for you, I’d rather speak the truth plainly than sugarcoat important lessons. Here’s the statement: fathering children outside of marriage or marrying someone just because she got pregnant can severely damage your future net worth.

I know it might sound harsh, but let’s explain the reasons. First, understand that your yearly salary doesn’t measure true wealth; your net worth measures the total value of your assets minus your liabilities. It doesn’t matter how high your annual income climbs if you’re saddled with heavy financial obligations you can’t escape. One of the most significant financial obligations out there is child support. Child support payments can be a real chokehold on your ability to save, invest, or grow your business. It’s a percentage of your income that you’re required by law to pay, sometimes for 18 years or more if your child goes to college.

Being in the child support system means that no matter how successful you become, an ongoing slice of your success goes somewhere else before you even see it. If you fall behind by more than $10,000, you risk losing the ability to obtain a passport, which can limit your travel for business or personal growth. If you fall behind even further, jail time becomes a possibility. Once locked in, climbing out and pursuing your dreams is harder.

So how do you avoid these pitfalls? It’s pretty straightforward: don’t bring children into the world before you’re ready and in a stable, committed relationship, ideally, marriage. If you decide to marry, that decision needs to be made for the right reasons: love, companionship, shared values, and mutual visions of the future. Do not marry someone solely because of a pregnancy. A hasty marriage rooted in panic often leads to heartbreak and financial challenges down the line.

Remember, some people view child support as a stable source of income. Of course, this isn’t all women, but it does happen. You want the freedom to build your life on your terms, without the burden of an unplanned legal obligation. The wrong choice can derail your journey to success and happiness. On the other hand, the right spouse can support and uplift you toward your dreams. Less than 10% of millionaires are unmarried. A solid partnership can differentiate between stagnation and real growth, emotionally, spiritually, and financially.

From a biblical perspective, finding a wife is about more than just having a romantic partner: finding a helpmate who can stand beside you as you grow together in faith and purpose. Connecting with someone who shares your values and long-term aspirations makes you far more likely to experience lasting stability and harmony. After all, marriage is meant to be a lifelong commitment, not just a legal contract.

Let this be a loving caution: if you want to build true wealth, protect your future, and live the dreams you’ve worked so hard for, avoid stumbling into the child support system. Keep your goals in clear view. Take responsibility for your actions and make wise decisions now, so your future is one of freedom and prosperity rather than restriction and regret.

Stay focused, stay disciplined, and with God’s help, you can find the right partner for a healthy, thriving marriage that supports you, your dreams, and your ability to become the high-value man you’re meant to be. Believe me, you’ll thank yourself later. And I’ll be here cheering you on every step of the way.