How 10X-ing My Life Changed My Perspective on Relationships, Purpose, and Finding Real Peace

Since 10X-ing my life,

I’ve seen firsthand the power of transformation. The results speak for themselves, and every moment feels like a step toward a future of health, wealth, and happiness.

Since mid-July, I’ve taken my life up a notch—or, as I like to say, I've 10X'd it. What does that mean? For me, it’s about fully committing to goals, eliminating distractions, and setting a clear path to becoming part of the top 2%—the people who go after what they want with focus and clarity, regardless of others' expectations.

In these months of intense growth, I’ve found making time for things like TV shows challenging. But one clip from Love is Blind recently caught my attention. Watching it reminded me of an essential lesson I often share with my coaching clients: real purpose in life usually requires us to make complex, definite choices.

In the clip, a man decides to end his relationship because he realizes that, no matter how he looks at it, this is not a future he wants to pursue. Many people watching labeled him as “toxic,” but in my view, his decision represented a kind of clarity that comes with living purposefully. Purposeful people don’t get bogged down in trying to fit a square peg in a round hole; they know when something is not aligned and act decisively.

This principle is one I hold firmly in my life and coaching work. I help people striving to become the top 2%—those who are unafraid of commitment, who don’t entertain negativity, and who take action to live by their principles.

Watching that clip brought me back to a coaching session I had in 2015. I was working with a client with a specific goal and a clear vision for his future, but his current relationship wasn’t contributing positively to that journey. I advised him to leave that relationship if it didn’t align with his “definite purpose.” My then-girlfriend (now my incredible wife!) was stunned. She reminded me that every story has two sides, to which I replied, “His side is the one paying me.”

At that moment, they  highlighted the clarity needed in purposeful relationships. A high-value individual, one of the “2%,” knows their worth and makes aligned decisions.

A major lesson I’ve learned over the years is this: peace is priceless. I’ve seen many people sacrifice peace for the illusion of love or for someone who, despite all outward appearances, doesn’t support their vision. It’s easy to get caught up in someone’s physical attraction or the thrill of new love, but the real question is—does this person bring you peace?

Physical attraction can draw you in, but it’s the presence of peace that makes a relationship thrive. A person of purpose seeks a partner who understands that challenges are to be faced together, not created within the relationship itself.

As a coach, I’m fortunate to have a wife who embodies the qualities I value most. She doesn’t bring drama but is not afraid to voice her concerns. Recently, I was telling her about Turkish coffee, and the conversation led to an uncomfortable realization. My wife pointed it out calmly, and within seconds, I saw where I’d gone wrong. That’s what a genuine partnership looks like—having someone who will tell you the truth without attacking or judging, a partner who brings harmony, not strife.

When I decided to 10X my life, instead of becoming defensive, my wife got on board and even started brainstorming how we could achieve my goals more smoothly. When I started seeing the fruits of my efforts, she surprised me with balloons in my home office—a gesture that may seem small to some but meant the world to me. She’s that rare kind of partner who thinks like the 2% and brings stability and joy to my life.

Today, we often hear debates on what a “real man” or “real woman” should be. I’ve found that a real man of purpose doesn’t entertain arguments or the emotional baggage of someone else’s insecurities. He sets boundaries, confidently makes decisions, and surrounds himself with people supporting his goals.

One important point I share with my clients is this: choose someone who can walk beside you with peace and strength if you pursue a relationship. And if you can’t envision a future of shared purpose and harmony, it’s better to move on.

Many people have a skewed perception of what’s possible in relationships. They say that high-value men—those who are 6 feet tall, make over $150,000 a year, and are willing to take on all life’s responsibilities—are “unattainable” for most women. But I challenge that mindset.

Yes, high-value men are rare, but that doesn’t mean they don’t exist or that people shouldn’t aspire to meet them. The key isn’t in compromising your standards but in becoming the kind of person who naturally attracts high-value individuals. Spend time in places where these people gather. Commit to personal growth, whether that’s through reading, attending networking events, or joining causes they care about. Change your mindset, and you’ll be in a new world.

Since 10X-ing my life, I’ve seen firsthand the power of transformation. The results speak for themselves, and every moment feels like a step toward a future of health, wealth, and happiness. And when I look at my wife—a woman who shares my vision and brings me peace—I know I’m on the right path.

To everyone reading this, I challenge you to do the same. Take that leap. Pursue your dreams unapologetically, and don’t be afraid to make hard decisions, especially in relationships. Find a partner who brings out the best in you and shares your purpose. Remember: it’s not about having a perfect past but creating a great future.

So, as you go around adjusting your clocks for daylight savings, take a moment to adjust your mindset, too. Reevaluate your relationships, redefine your goals, and realign with your purpose because life is too short to settle for anything less than what brings you peace and purpose.