Why I’m No Longer Entertaining the “I Don’t Care” Crowd

As I’ve grown, both personally and professionally, I’ve come to realize something critical: there are certain mindsets I’m no longer interested in being around. One of them is what I call the “I Don’t Care” crowd.

In researching for my next book, I’ve been studying the behavior patterns that show up in different environments, especially in conflict. And something that stands out repeatedly is this: when people can’t improve their argument, they raise their voice. Instead of using logic, facts, or empathy, they resort to volume. And more often than not, right behind the shouting comes that phrase, “I don’t care.”

Now let’s be honest. That phrase might sound bold, even confident, but it’s not. It’s actually a defense mechanism. People use “I don’t care” to shut down conversations, avoid responsibility, or dismiss viewpoints they don’t understand. It’s the anthem of the uninformed and the emotionally unavailable.

And ironically, those who throw “I don’t care” around the most are usually the first to call someone else “toxic” or “narcissistic.” But ask them what those terms actually mean, and they can’t tell you. Because it was never about understanding; it was always about deflecting.

Here’s what I know: people who care, care enough to grow. They care enough to take accountability, to listen, to learn, to lead. But the “IDC” crowd? They don’t grow. They argue, deflect, and drain the energy out of any room they enter.

I’ve made a decision: I’m no longer giving energy to the IDC crowd. I’m not arguing with people who are committed to misunderstanding. I’m not debating folks who get louder instead of smarter. And I’m not wasting time with people who see empathy as weakness.

If you want to elevate, you’ve got to separate.

Don’t let the IDC mindset infect your purpose. Avoid it like a cold, it’s contagious. It’ll make you question your goals, downplay your value, and second-guess your dreams.

Instead, build with people who care:

Care about their future.

Care about how they treat others.

Care about learning and evolving.

Care about peace and purpose.

Caring doesn’t make you weak. It makes you wise. And it’s one of the clearest signs of a high-value individual.

You don’t have to be harsh to be heard. You don’t have to yell to be respected. You don’t have to say “I don’t care” to protect yourself. Real strength is calm, focused, and intentional.

So, to the IDC crowd, I’m wishing you healing, but I’m moving forward. My energy is too important, my mission too big, and my peace too valuable.

If you’re on a journey to grow, protect your energy. Choose your circle wisely. And remember: the louder they get, the less they know.

Keep rising. Keep caring. And most importantly, keep growing.